Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Couple's Corner

Rodliz’s Nest

First Year of Getting Married--During the first year of our marriage was a full of adjustments--after years of getting used to live in a busy and noisy city in Fukushima, we started to live together with my PIL,BIL, 2 SIL(not yet married at that time ) and Yochan' s Great GrandMother at an quiet, isolated place ( with no neighbors near them )in which I'm calling The Bukid Of Tralala. It is unusual here in Japan to live all together in one roof but due to Yochan' s work, we asked to live with them for a year. A year of learning Japanese culture( until now ), the language, the pakikisama and all that. Me and my 2 SIL share responsibilities inside the house, teaching me to cook whenever they have time-- it wasn't easy to cook for big family coz it's like you're cooking for fiesta. A main dish, salads, soups and appetizer --unlike in my country that if you have the rice and main dish,it' s fine.Imagine all the dirty dishes after! It was hard at first but it is an everyday life and doing them just the same when I'm still in the Philippines, the difference is only the numbers of dishes--and it's normal. Although I don' t have problem with dealing with my BIL and SIL (we're almost of same ages but still they're respecting me as their elder bros wife ), I could feel somewhere that I'm not still accepted as a family by Yochan's Great Grand Mother during that time. When they're all gone to their work, it is only me and Obachan (85 years old Great Granny) that is left at home. I was trying my best to approach her, talk to her ( with my bulol nipponggo ) but she would make " dabog " and won' t eat what I serve during lunch time.Despite of the feeling of being unwanted in the family, I was hoping that she would accept me even not that soon but eventually. Until one day, my prayers was heard-- she invited me to have a coffee break at the living room and we started to talk for the first time before we moved out from them . I'm really glad for my answered prayers although it took me for awhile!! She's one kawaii obachan ever!! First Misunderstanding--I'm a jealous type of woman before and I'm really irritated whenever we attend some Motorshows and same kind of events with lots of girls, companions, race queens, etc and taking pictures of them. I sometimes would not talk and just ignore him and he's like " Why are you mad? I thought you love Motorshows?" Don't get me wrong--I love motorshows alright but I can't really express it well (that I'm soo much jealoused taking time peek-turing those ladies lol) because of my poor nipponggo and he told me that he' ll listen even if it will took hours to explain how I feel--gusto nya ilabas ko raw lahat ng nararamdaman ko and so I told him the reason why and laughed at me. Well, he told me the main is the machine and not the girls ( who knows lol!). We have a couple of disagreements and sometimes fight over little things ( because of me being childish)but we just move along and make up. We' re like this BEFORE: Yochan wanted me to speak up everything I have in mind. NOW: HE WANTED ME TO SHUT UP LOL!
Our marriage ain't perfect, but it's a work in progress.^_^

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19 comments:

chubskulit said...

Haahahaha at selosa pala ang quenn ng tralala, must be very hard to make pakisama sa kanila lalo na language was a brrier for you then but you overcome all those kasi you are a great woman Clang!Kami din, we lived at my FIL for over a year but living with him is never a problem because he is very nice. Pinapashut up ka na pala hahaha, ako talaga pag galit ako, i don't wanna talk kaya si juan lagi ang nanunuyo hehehe, spoiled na nga ako minsan i feel bad din. Love reading your entries Mrs. Tralala Queen hehehe. Mwah!

Cecile said...

Wow, selosa ka pala; buti na lang bait ang asawa mo.

Chris said...

nice to read your story :D

Bambie dear ★ said...

lol about being selosa.. kakatuwa ka naman pati mga import models. Kainis nga, mas seloso si hide kesa sa akin.. pero syempre di nya inaamin na selos sya.. post ko na lang minsan, super dami ko na namissed sa cc..

about your first year, gosh taihen datta ne. Super adjustment talaga on your part kasi bigla bigla nag-iba ang environment mo, lam mo naman dito sa japan, pakikisama talaga ang pinaka importante, if not, magmumukha tayo masama.. sabagay kahit saan naman dapat marunong makisama. Pero bilib ako sa yo kasi nalagpasan mo and they all love you now. Nagiba din siguro ang image ng pinay sa kanila.

But you know, may mga advantages din ang pagtira nyo sa mga inlaws at oldies, lalo na gaijin.. ang dami mo natutunan, ang galing galing mo na.. im sure walang magiging problema sa communication nyo ng mga kids paglaki nila. Pansin ko lang kasi sa ibang pinay moms dito, di sila maka relate sa mga kids nila, siguro dahil up to now pinoy style pa rin sila.. nweis, haba na naman ang comment ko lol

mata ne mwag

Yami said...

Hi Clang, sensya na ngayon lang ako napasyal, lam mo na. Pareho pala tayong selosa at yan ang isusulat ko later. Mahirap makisama sa mga inlaws pero you were able to do it with flying colors. :)

Mom of Four said...

Paranmg sa movies naman ang story ng iyong first year of being married. Yung sineservan mo ang great granny ni hubby tapos ayaw kainin, parang si Anita Linda yan ah, ahahaha! But, I am so happy na all your efforts have worked. Di ba ang saya kapag magkakasundo. Bayaan mo na lang yung mga iba pang memebers ng family, ngayon di mo na sila kasama..Dami bang mga hinuhugasang dirty dishes,m eh kasi daming pagkain eh, di gaya sa atin, kanin at isang klaseng ulam lang, tapos na, di ba?

Selosa ka pala, ehehe..grabe ka naman, pati mga babae sa motor show pinagseselsosan mo? Akala ko ako lang ang nagseselos, wahahaha..I used to get jealous kay Pamela Anderson Lee, kasi kala ko loves na loves ni Rodney yun, super laki kasi ng boobs, ahahaha! Tapos naging si Madonna pala ang pinagpapantasyahanni Rodney, busit din ako sa mga pictures ni Madonna. Hay, ang buhay nga naman..Hehehe. Love your story Clarissa.

Jay - agent112778 said...

i jazed remebered my first motorshow i attended (about 1996, sa SM megamall) and since i cant afford the cars, afford ko naman mag peekturing the models :D

kidding asside, in any new relationships, pakikisama is the 1st move diba and im glad that your hubby's family accepted you na.

nice to hear(read i mean) your story.. :D

Dhemz said...

hahahahaha....nakakatuwa tong post mami Clang...as in..we have the same in common...selosa ever kasi ako....at childish pa...waaaa!

korek...dati, hubby wants me to speak up...ngayon pinapashut-up na ako.....kakaloka talaga ano...

hay married life talaga ano...:)

hahaha...queen ka pala ng tralala....lol!

frizzy_rein said...

haha baka nman ate izza masyadong mahaba un litanya mo.. hehe ako nman di ko kaya makipag-one on one sa sagutan. we usually argue online :D o di ba kakaiba. kahit nasa iisang bahay kami pag nag-away kami sa YM lang. kasi pag on spot na argue, baka tagalugin ko sia :D

frizzy_rein said...

btw heres my entry pala >> http://mydigihome.info/?p=271

Enchie said...

What an adjustment talaga for you... I mean, I thik mostly who lives abroad. Its a different environment kasi. And first would always be that stage of getting-used-to. But I could see that you took it well. I'm happy for where you are right now.Enjoying life with family, living in a beautiful country, learned a different language and blogging!!!

♡ N o r e e n said...

Hahahaha ganyan din ako di ko mapigil bukas bibig ko nyaahaha sometimes I need to shut up na :D

Chie Wilks said...

nakakatouch and story ng first year of marriage mo sis Clarissa..medyo may pagkataas-kilay pala si great grandma hehe..i am having that kind of problem sa step sis-n-law ko...ewan, sya ung step sister siya ung maraming tanong...nasesense ko na she doesn't like me the way she deliver her questions...later on, hindi ko na sinasagot email nya hahaha....

and...ntawa ako sa "bukid of tralala" mo...

about this jealousy, hindi talaga mapipigilan na ngseselos tau, kahit ako.kasi minsan di nila maiwasan mapatingin sa ibang gurlz..ang ginagawa ko nalang ay pinapagalitan ko ang sarili ko tapos sasabihin ko "ikaw rin naman ah tumitingin din sa ibang guys lalo na ung cute at hunk" pero still andun parin ung konting kurot sa dibdib

anne said...

uhmm sa machine naman pala tumitingin so ok lang un hehehe, i edit mo na lang ang picture girl, i crop mo para di mo makita ang mga ladies hahaha anyway heres mine http://www.terryannemary.com/2009/11/couples-corner-misunderstanding.html thanks girl

eden said...

suwerte mo talaga mommy clang mabait ang asawa mo at di mahilig sa mga chicks..lolz..(joke) well, ganoon din ako noon medyo maypagka selosa but unti unting nawala.

Beth said...

hahaha! nakakainsecure naman kasi un mga sexy na girls sa mga motorshows di ba? :) pero nakakatuwa that your hubby just laughed and explained to you that un machines lang gusto niya :)
I like this post, minsan tutoo what you just said, yun minsan hubby wants us to shut up pminsan hahaha! :) thanks for sharing this.

belated Happy Birthday Clang! Tagal ko kasing nawala sa circulation at di nakakadalaw sa mga blogs. Here's wishing you had a happy and blessed one! :) God bless!

Manang Kim said...

hehehe tawa ako nang tawa dito Mommy clar, eh ang ganda naman talaga nang mga girls dyan ang liliit pa nang mga bewang char!! pero ikaw ang misis and the queen kaya no worry dyan...thanks sa visit!

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Seiko said...

Ahaha!!Akala ko ako na ang grabeng magselos mas may grabe pa pala sa akin.
Ganyan yata talaga pag sa umpisa talagang maraming adjustment but that's not really matters now.All that matters is now,lalo na at nakuha mo ang sympathy nila.Di ba ang sarap ng feelings na after those hardship sa pagsasama bilang mag-asawa nalalagpasan lahat kung talagang you both love each other.I'm so proud of you Clar,bihira na rin kasi akong makakita ng katulad mo na mahaba ang pasensya.Keep it up!Hindi ka nag-iisa.Hugs !!Ganbarimashoo!!!

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