Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Couple's Corner--When We Thought It's Over

Overreacting...that's my problem... I tend to react over lil things and being annoyed and then end up on the so-called cold war... I have to admit that our marriage ain't perfect but we have now fewer problems than when we first got married. Last month, we have this "lil cold war" ( again) that lasted for days and I believe for myself that I was right and don't feel sorry 'bout my acts. One night he was drying his hair and I blurted out something that he didn't get to listen because of the sound of the dryer/blower. He stopped doing his thing and said " What? What are saying?" and so I started to talk again but he began to blow his hair again. Annoying right? He doesn't seem interested of what I'm trying to say to him. I was annoyed with him and stopped talking and remained upset for days. I've learned that it's best to take initiative in trying to make peace over cold wars but that time, I don't want to do the first move. I began thinking that we could no longer live together and that I should just quit trying to make the marriage work. End of the world? Yes. I can't talk to my Mom 'bout my marital problems coz I don't want her to get worried of me.
In the end, we were both able to calmn down and talk things over peacefully. He said he was sorry when I told him what made me really angry and he said " wouldn't it be nicer if you first let me continue to dry my hair so we could have a nice conversation after?" for me think about. I understand what he's trying to convey to me--during that time, I was just thinking of myself and I'm glad that he gave me time to cool down. I now recognize that I too have faults... Daldal ako daldal--kita ko namang may ginagawa cya eh. Pwede nga namang mamaya na lang ang daldalan pagkatapos ng ginagawa nya...eh anong magagawa ko, madaldal akong tao eh lol!

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13 comments:

catharine ruiz said...

hahaha.sis i kinda relate to your story,same here,madaldal din akong tao,kaya minsan i get annoyed pag si hubby di ako pinapakingan while nasa daldal moment ako.pero sa katagalan ,i get used to it na.hehe

Mommy Liz said...

Hehehe! kasi naman atat kang mag kwento, kala mo emergency ang sasabihin mo eh. dito nag uusap lang kami ni Rodney kapag kumakain siya, or kapag nakahiga na kaming dalawa, or kapag nag bibyahe kami, kasi ang asawa ko, laging me ginagawa, nanood ng movie or nasa labas nag bubutingting ng kung ano. So, kapag pala nagagalit ka sa asawa mo, iniisip mo agad ang hiwalayan blues?

gengen said...

Hmm opposite ako kasi if galit ayaw ko talagang magsalita... mine is up...

balatsibuyas (IMRIZ) said...

LOL here, tokayo...naman...sana nga pinatapos mo muna un ginagawa nia. o kya jelp mo xa pra mabilis pang natuyo ang buhok nia db...tau kasing mga babae, madalas, e inarte, hehe, ksp ba ^_^

stay in love, forever:)

Wifey10 said...

Hi mommy Clang seems so long di ako naka comment CC mu at u joined here. Are you well na? anyways ako rin ganun din queen of over reacting ako, kahit lil things lang lumalaki kasi uber react ako. hate ko rin yong di ako pinapansin, KSP kasi ako.haha..

my entry here
http://alwaysfilipina.blogspot.com/2011/03/never-in-my-wildest-thoughts.html

Mars said...

first time here in your blog dear. :) I must say you have an interesting life in Japan! a lot of different things compared here in the Philippines. Would love to read more about the culture there. For one I love the way you guys celebrate Valentines there! :) Your kids are sweet! ^_^


By the way, I'm building a blogroll for my new blog and I hope I could exchange links with you? :) Thanks in advance!

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Mars @ The Life Encounters

Chuchie | Chie Wilks said...

hahahha...taman nga naman si hubby mo sis.. pero syempre nkakarelate din ako sayo kasi ganyan din ako...most of the time.feeling ko dapat unahin niya ako...pakinggan niya muna ako bago ang lahat..hahhha...ah women!

mine is here

Ai KaiRui Liu said...

maybe that's a girls nature...all we want is us, us, us and me first!
Good thing you've talked it over and been cleared with stuffs...

here's my entry
http://kc2009.blogspot.com/2011/03/how-do-i-live-without-you.html

Pehpot said...

sabayan mo na lang ng pag blow dry clang hehe

Soulful said...

yeah, i think we can be very insensitive sometimes. we only think of how we feel without minding our partner's feelings...

chubskulit said...

Hi Clang, buti na lang pala maunwain si Yochan hehehe.

I hope you guys are okay after the devastating tsunami..

niko said...

hihihih wag mo daw sabayan ang blower! heheh

AC said...

ganun ata talaga ate clang tayong mga babae, sensitive feeling natin walang interest satin, pero sana sinabi nyang "wait lang" dba? LOL! ginatungan ko pa... pero oks na yan... just hold on... love na love ka naman ni yochan eh... see? nag explain nman sya...

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